How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others: 5 Powerful Tips

It happens to all of us – bloggers and non-bloggers alike. I’m talking about this insane activity of weighing your worth compared to other people. For your own mental well-being, I’m going to share tips on how to avoid comparing yourself to others!

Comparing yourself to others leads to feelings of self-doubt, and ultimately failure and depression.

It stops you from achieving your goals and reinventing yourself. Heck, it can even stop you from starting projects!

Let’s get you past this hurdle and on to achieving great things!

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How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others: 5 Powerful Tips

I’ve been there many times in my 40-plus years. Feeling inadequate is an easy thing when you compare yourself to others.

It’s what’s kept me in the past from starting my blog coaching business. It stopped me from positioning myself as a blogging expert. So many years wasted!

So how do you get past this harmful need to compare yourself?

1. Realize Nobody Is Perfect

Think everybody is perfect? Far from it!

Learn how to stop comparing yourself to others – whether they are your friends or people online.

You may be admiring how great an influencer is, or perhaps an expert that you’re following. Their posts show a beautiful, successful life. Something you aspire to in your life.

But are they really that successful? Are they really living that amazing life?

What did it take to get to where they are in their lives? What was the price of success?

Stop comparing yourself to others!

Behind the scenes, they may have failed relationships, health issues, and so much more that’s breaking them. They aren’t perfect!

While you can certainly get motivated by their successes, you shouldn’t aspire to be like them. This brings me to the next point.

2. You Are Uniquely You – Celebrate It

Avoid comparing yourself to others, because there is no other person like you out there. You are YOU!

In a world where conformity in behaviour and thought is celebrated (aka herd mentality), doing things YOUR way is completely 100% a welcome thing.

It used to be that we all celebrated unique, cool people. Trendsetting was a thing you wanted to do.

At some point in the past few years, anybody going against the “accepted narrative” has been “cancelled”.

Stop comparing your behaviour, your activities and your successes to those of others. Be you! Trust me when I say, that you’ll be far more successful in life when you focus on being true to yourself.

How To stop comparing yourself to others.

Know your self-worth: journaling can help you realize you are awesome as you are!

3. Keep A Journal

There was a time when I was younger and much more insecure, that I kept a journal. I wrote down what interesting things I did each day.

I also wrote down my feelings – how I felt about others and about myself.

Writing down my thoughts greatly helped me learn more about myself. I would re-read my thoughts every few months and see how I changed in how I thought about myself.

One thing that I did that was very helpful was to write down one thing a day about what I truly loved about myself.

This activity can really help you stop comparing yourself to others.

Some prompts:

Today I did these three amazing things…
Today, I felt I learned X things, they are:
Something I’m happy about myself today is…

4. Ask Others About Your Best Qualities

This is not fishing for a compliment. This is trying to find out what others think are your key strengths.

Much of our desire to compare ourselves to others is because we don’t realize our own best traits and key strengths.

We think we’re not good enough and we want to validate it by looking at what’s best about others.

Ask your family members and friends, as they can truly give you your best qualities. You’ll realize that you’re awesome just the way you are!

5. Do A Social Media Detox To Avoid Comparing Yourself To Others

Want to know the best way to stop comparing yourself to others?

Stay off of social media.

Stop looking at what others are sharing, because you know it’s fake. It’s been staged to look great.

Stop following influencers, experts and celebrities, because their business is to put their best foot forward. They aren’t as “real” as they come across.

The same goes for other bloggers. Unless they’re blogging about real life and sharing their stories, you won’t see the ugly truth.

Yup. The ugly truth is that everybody has bad days. Everybody gets food poisoning at some point. Everybody goes to the bathroom. They all have embarrassing moments, including those where they have failed miserably publicly.

Nobody is perfect. So why are you so hard on yourself by comparing yourself to others?

If I’ve learned anything in my 40-plus years is that you don’t need to compare yourself to anybody else. I’m unique as an individual. I have a right to my own opinions. I have my own strengths and weaknesses (that I’m working on).

Be Happier Being You!

I hope my tips to stop comparing yourself to others have helped you realize that you can be successful just as you are – without comparing yourself to others.

Embrace things that are great about you!

Your skills, your personality and your thoughts are what make you great. Your family and friends will tell you that!

To keep yourself motivated and happy about YOUR journey, I’ve got a list of motivational quotes. Write out the ones you really love, or create a visual in Canva and frame them.

They can be great reminders to keep yourself focusing on YOUR successes and YOUR great qualities.

Also, remind yourself to stop worrying about the little stuff: check out my list of over 100 quotes about stopping worrying for a positive mindset.

For those over 40 – read my post on how to find happiness in midlife.

And why you should start a business over 40.

Question: What do you feel when you compare yourself to others? How do you overcome the need to compare yourself to others?

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